inspired by Clarissa Pinkola Estes ‘Women Who Run with the Wolves’
As women, we try to fit into the predefined, preconceived roles within the society, within the family, even in our romantic relationships. We are our truest self when we are performing roles that are closest to our intrinsic nature. Nature that notices beauty, feels joy, has passion, registers satiation and has a creative spirit; the wildness inside our souls.
Joy is the kind of feeling a woman has when she lays the mosaic of words down on paper, or the notes of the strings of her heart on the cords, or the strokes of her brush on the board when she gets the colours just right; complementing and reflecting her soul. It is what a woman feels when she looks at people that she loves, loving themselves. Joy is the feeling she has when she does something she feels intensely about, something that is nourishing to her soul, something that pushes her and stretches her to be her wild-self. Acceptable or not to the eyes of the world, within, the wild woman knows and feels the moment, the art, the battle, the creation of something or someone; life!
When it comes to the art of having a fulfilling sexual experience, it is as if women have defeminised for generations. Ever wonder why it is so natural for men to have an orgasm and not women? Both men and women are well engineered specimens of Mother Nature, then it must have to do with the mental wiring. Now what is that mental wiring, the psyche? Physical, psychological and emotional states of being! How come men are so well connected with their psyche, while women remain disconnected, disjointed, detached and cannot fully indulge in the experience! Even when they sometimes want to!
When living up to the expectations of the eyes of this world, women often lose touch with their truest wildest selves — the creative spirit that gives them the passion, the desire, the fire — connection with the soul. During physical intimacy, women often suppress emotion, not demanding their needs and wants to be met, or simply faking it— Yes! Modern media projects expectations of women that are unrealistic and untrue just adding to the pressure — making them think their own pleasure is somehow trivial to giving pleasure in the act. If women were to let go of doing the task- expectations from them to act a certain way or make their man feel a certain way- and let their energy sync with their emotion they might just find it equally pleasurable! If only women were to let their natural and instinctive states of being run wild! It could be unbelievable.
Enough about women! Sex without a soul is equally true for men or however one define themselves. It is at its highest vibration when the divine masculine and divine feminine come together. Important to note here that ‘divine’ only occurs when you have stripped yourself of all worldly conditioning and desires and are truly your authentic self. When I use man/he/him, I mean the masculine energy and woman/she/her, the feminine counterpart, which are not gendered. If his soul is not truly in it, he might still enjoy the act but will never be able to sync his divine energy with his woman’s — it will be an amalgamation of bodies and not two beings! As they say, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. When he lets his inner fire unleash and shows her his naked soul, her light shines through and her soul catches the eternal fire. It lights up the sky and warms up the earth! Every soul has a unique power — a wildness, a fire! Now it’s up to you to find yours and live the meaning of life!
